Love is a greatest thing in our life, it’s shining, glimmering and splendid..
Is a thing like this always true? Have you ever think love can be an addiction? It is really hard to believe, the meaning of love can give negative effect as an addiction. But it is true. Love can make people addict if they misunderstood about the love itself.
Addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance or activity despite negative social, psychological and/or physical consequences. It is often (but not always) accompanied by physical dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance.
In this case, If you have ever been in love but facing a life with desperate hopes, constant fears, fear to be rejected, less faith in love, and waiting for love to come is just your real experience, you might be in love addiction.
Love addiction is a result of unfulfilled needs of attachment and love in childhood. If someone often receive psychological or physical abuses, angriness, aversion, abandoned and rivalry, it will left scars as trauma in their life. Then, it continues to make regression in their growth and development as adult. There is also medical perspective that stated if level of pheylethylamine (PEA) triggered – a chemical in brain of people with love addiction, it will make felling of infatuation, excitement and boosting euphoria when they falling in love.
For love addicts, love is mean as :
• Is all consuming and obsessive
• Is inhibited
• Avoids risk or change
• Lacks true intimacy
• Is manipulative, strikes deals
• Is dependent and parasitic
• Demands the loved one’s devotion
By the brief information above, we should try to give meaning of our love that we have. It is not wrong if we are loving someone, but we must realize if our love just become our purpose of life and we will powerless when it’s over, make us condescended by making any relationship without honesty and trustworthy partner, and we become possessive without any clear reason, consultation to love therapist is suggested. Beside that, by always thankful of everything that we have in our life, we can feel the genuine of love in our life.
Article by: Indah K.L
